As a trainer I’m always trying to find new and clever ways to keep my clients motivated, accountable and confident. I want them to know and believe they CAN lose the weight they want to lose. And they can feel good, just the way their body’s meant to.
But for me, clients’ weight loss is just an added bonus. If it happens, great. But I’d rather shift their focus to changing their lifestyle and self-perception.
What Should They Focus On Instead?
Everyone (well most people) want to lose weight. Every model, even fitness models, the girls you look up to and think are perfect, etc.
I hate focusing training around weight loss. It’s true, I build it into my programming for high calorie burning exercises and teaching proper nutrition.
But really my training style is to build friendship. This builds trust and from there I can slowly help build confidence. Confidence is everything and women lack it massively.
I’m tired of that. Women are amazing!! They just can’t see it. So to help you ladies open your eyes to that, I’m starting a weekly blog featuring my clients. It’ll share the life of some of my clients who has truly blossomed over the past year.
We all have our hills to climb, but my client who wishes to remain anonymous, has been steep. She was in a toxic marriage for years. She found her way out only to be kicked out of her social circle. Anxiety and depression became a daily struggle.
She didn’t take this lying down. She moved forward and started a new life. She’s rocking her work life, using exercise as an outlet and is insanely funny. It’s ridiculous how funny she is!
Now that she’s in a better place, she has so much to give. And thankfully she’s turned that back on herself. She’s using her energy to work on burning weight off so her vibrance can shine through.
She’s come so far already but has a lot more work to do to reach her goals. I have no doubt that she will.
The emotional battles we all fight - learning to love yourself, finding healthy alternatives, getting over slumps and gaining confidence, all can be found in this blog. We’re working on chronicling this together, so you’ll see her journaling here as well.
So here it is, her honest journey of being in the 300's and trying to lose over 150 pounds. She’s already turned into a more positive, witty, happy, hilariously sarcastic and fit person. I really love being around her and I know you will too.
Here is the start.
Journey START - 353lbs
Current Goal by age 41 - Get under 300
Long-term Goal - 180
She is turning 41 in 7 weeks. Looking at the past year, she’s lost 32 lbs which is a huge feat for any client! So a round of applause for please!
She’s lost 42 lbs since starting her journey and is feeling so much happier and better about herself. To empower her to keep the momentum going, I had her begin this weekly journal.
If you’re thinking of going on a similar journey, get yourself a notebook, use Google Docs, or find whatever works for you. It’s such an important tool because it forces you to hold yourself accountable, but it also forces you to look at all the amazing work you’re doing. Take a minute to read through it every so often, especially if you’re having a low moment. I bet you as soon as you flip through it your view will change.
Here are the highlights from last week, interview style.
Me: What was your favorite breakfast this week?
Client: Green smoothies with almond butter and chia seeds. They’re fast and not too heavy. They help me start the day making a good choice and being nice to myself.
Me: What about lunch?
Client: Hmmm…. Probably when I pan cooked chicken breast in a smidge of olive oil and paired it with oven roasted asparagus. I like that I can make healthy food with my own hands.
Well, either that or the cheeseburger + tomatoes + avocado (no bun) I got from Habit. I’m happy that I can still eat out and make good choices.
Me: I love that too! Napa is so great about offering healthy options at restaurants. Gotta love that. So did you have a favorite dinner this week?
Client: This week I worked on my homemade spaghetti sauce. I love pasta so I still want that flavor but without all the carbs. So serving it over sautéed zucchini is fun, plus you can make it different by adding meat or keeping it vegetarian.
Me: The afternoon can be tough since it’s prime time for cravings. How did you handle snacks?
Client: Yea that’s true! This is the toughest time for me because that’s when I get to craving sweets. But it’s so easy to replace sugary foods with fruit. Why did I never before?? Rainier cherries are in season right now. I like them because they’re cheap and delicious.
Me: Ooh, I love those too! In season snacking is the best snacking.
Did you have a favorite workout moment this week? Maybe something new you learned how to do, or a moment you felt really powerful?
Client: Well working out has been hard. I’m not an exercising kind of person so I’m having to learn how to hold equipment and other basic stuff like that. I’m so glad I have you to help me with this! I would be clueless!!! This week I loved when you helped me see there is a light at the end of this tunnel and I can reach my goals. ! I really felt strong when we did that together.
Me: I’m so glad you liked that! And you felt strong because you are :) So tell me about your mood. Highs and lows for the week.
Client: Sleep’s an issue for me. When I get it, I feel hopeful. Like maybe I actually could get under 300 lbs before my birthday. When I don’t get it, I feel down. Frustrated with myself. Looking at myself. But I’m just trying to stay focused on one thing at a time. Baby steps....
As a trainer I ask my clients to say 5 things they like about themselves everytime they say something negative. The power of using our minds as a self-fulfilling prophecy is such a powerful tool! Think positive and you will be positive.
Me: Ok you know what’s next. Tell me five things you like about yourself. Go!
Client: Haha, ok ok. You’re right. I need to work on that. I guess:
Wanna see a detailed account of my clients mood, food and exercise, including the rest of her list? Click here.
Back to Tessa
Thanks for following her journey here with us. I can’t wait to tell you more as time goes on. If you’d like to follow more of my client's journey's to regaining their health on social media (in addition to here, ofc!), you can find us at @bare.health
To your health, always.
Just another girl who is trying to inspire others. Passionate about health and fitness. And a love of coffee and peanut butter.